Acceptance is the key.... interesting article

Learn to accept your partner as he or she is. Don't try to impose your own notions of right or wrong. Compromise isn't easy. Still, it is the only way to grow, says Swami Kriyananda

Women marry with the thought, ‘He will change’. Men marry with the thought, ‘She won't change’. Both men and women are doomed to disappointment. There is much wisdom in those words. Learn to accept your partner as he or she is. Don't try to impose your own notions of what is right or wrong. The best way to change another person is to inspire him to want to change by encouraging their strengths. Never discourage them with by constantly referring to their weaknesses. The need for compromise is one of the first thing to accept in a marriage. Many people consider any compromise a “sell-out” — a surrender of values and principles. This is rarely the case. To refuse to adjust one's personality to the expectations of another, is to be pig-headed. Egotism is the death of wisdom. Compromise isn't easy. Still, it is the only way to grow and mature. Compromise makes us wellbalanced, kind, and wise.
When misunderstandings occur, question yourself — “What can I do to change myself?” To help another person in his development is noble and generous. But to feel responsible for another person's development is to add an intolerable burden to your own.
If you feel there is something which needs to be changed in your spouse’s behaviour, concentrate not on your need to make the suggestion, but on your spouse's willingness to accept it. Be respectful of your partner's right to grow in his or her own way. For each of us
need the freedom to make our own mistakes. To be overly protective of others is to deprive them of the opportunity to gain experience in life, and therefore to grow in wisdom.
When counselling, to tell yourself, “No one owes it to me to take my advice”. Feel gratified, rather, when anything you say is accepted as worthwhile. Give others the freedom to grow at their own pace. Isn't that what you really want, yourself?

NIAGARA - JUNE 28th Memorable Day

I can never forget this day every year since the year 2007.....since this day 28.06.2007 was my WEDDING DAY.

But more than that I need to remember it as the day we had been to Niagara from this year.......THANKS THANKS THANKS!!!!!!

I have delayed in posting this because I couldn't find some leisure time to select a few photos from our album to share..... :)

WHAT A FORCE OF NATURE - AMAZING!!! AWESOME!!!






HORSE SHOE SHAPED FALLS......WATER WATER WATER EVERYWHERE.....

A BEAUTIFUL RAINBOW CAME ACROSS OUR WAY......

WHAT AN ANGLE OF PHOTOGRAPHY.........


RAINBOW BRIDGE SEPARATING U.S.A and CANADA


These are just a few among the hundreds and hundreds of the photos taken.....but again wanted to make a note of this day/year in my diary.....of this first year Wedding Anniversary Celebration :) and also share this beautiful place with all...

Satisfaction comes from within

Life is not such a misery as we presume it to be; misery is just our interpretation. The following technique will give you a positive approach.....just read it in a magazine and wanted to scribble this down in my Diary.....

Life is so beautiful and fulfilling that everybody should be naturally satisfied. But what happens is just the contrary. Everyone is grumbling and complaining all the time. Try this meditation from Tantra which says, “Wherever satisfaction is found, in whatever act, actualize it.” Osho gives a clue: It means when you feel thirsty, you drink water, a subtle satisfaction is felt. Forget the water, forget the thirst, and remain with the subtle satisfaction that you are feeling. Be filled with it. If you look for small moments when you wake up in the morning, you will find many reasons of being satisfied. But human mind is negative. It only remembers dissatisfactions, and blows them out of proportion. You are more vocal about your miseries than about your happiness. Life is not such a misery as we have made it; misery is just our interpretation. This technique gives you a positive approach. Do not ignore satisfaction. It can become a glimpse of a greater positive existence. You see a friend and you feel happy; actualize this. It will be good to put it in words: ‘I am so happy today.’ Feel it spreading like a perfume all over your body. It enters your throat, then to the chest and other parts and the body feels cool and content. Enjoy this feeling. Be happy in that moment, and make that happiness a door. Then you are changing the mind, and you will start accumulating happiness. Your mind will turn positive, and the same world will look
different. You have to gather satisfaction drop by drop like the honey bee gathers honey from the flowers. Each incident can give you some drops of satisfaction if you know how to look. Be filled with it, taste it, and allow it to happen to your whole being. Be one with it. The fragrance of it will follow you. It will go on resounding within you the whole day and will help you to be more positive.

என்னவன்......

நான் படித்ததில் எனக்கு பிடித்தது ......

எனக்கெனவே உருவாகினான்
என்னுள் உயிராய் ஆனான்
என் சிந்தனையை கலைத்தான்
என் ச்வாசமாகவே ஆனான்

நடக்கையில் என் பாதை ஆகினான்
சோர்வு என்ற பொது உற்ற்சாகம் ஆகினான்
கண்கள் மூடும் பொது என் கணவாய் ஆனான்
கண்கள் திறக்கும் பொது என் காட்சியாய் ஆனான்

கோபங்கள் வரும் பொது சிரிப்பாய் மலர்ந்தான்
கண்ணீர் வரும் பொது விரல்ஆய் நின்றான்
அன்பினால் என்னை அட்கொண்டன்
நேசத்தினால் என்னை அவன் வசம் ஆக்கினான்

என் நிழல் என்னை விட்டு சென்ற போதும்
பிரிவு இல்லாமல் என்னோடு இருந்தான்
என்னவனை நினைபதே எனக்கு சொர்க்கம்
அவனோடு வாழ்வதோ பேர் ஆனந்தம்......

Stupid questions that we ask without even realising ;)

I was reading few age old mails that was in Unread list and i happened to see this nice mail. Read when you are totally idle like me and enjoy the read. I have added few incidents that I met with and i will be happy if i come to know if i was not the only one: D who got/gave such bulbs :P

1. At the movies: When you meet acquaintances/ friends
Stupid Question:-Hey, what are you doing here?
Answer:-Well, it's so hot; there were no cool cabs
so I thought I’d watch some advertisements in
the cool comfort of the theatre.

2. In the bus: A fat girl wearing pointed high-heeled shoes steps on your feet

Stupid Question:-Sorry, did that hurt?
Answer:-No, not at all, I'm on local anesthesia…...
why don't you try again or should I try this
time."

3. In our college canteen during Infy training session while I was eating chocobar,

My Classmate: Sam, can you give your lab note book I need to copy the reading.

Me: (Interestingly licking dripping ice cream from my hand) didn’t hear anything actually and didn’t notice him also!

Other friend: Yey Prady is asking you something. Pls come out to the world.

Classmate: You are eating ice cream huh?

Me: Huh! No I am licking the ice cream.

Actually he blew it to the whole class that I was licking ice cream than eating it!

4. At a funeral: One of the teary-eyed people ask

Stupid Question:-Why, why him, of all people.
Answer:-Why? Would it rather have been you?

5. At a restaurant: When you ask the waiter

Stupid Question:-Is the "blah blah blah" dish good
Answer:-No, it’s terrible and made of adulterated
cement. We occasionally also spit in it.

6. When a friend announces her wedding, and you ask

Stupid Question:-Is the guy you're marrying good?
Answer:-No, he' s a miserable wife-beating , insensitive
lout...it's just the money.

7. When you get woken up at midnight by a phone call

Stupid Question:-Sorry. Were you sleeping.
Answer:-No. I was playing cricket for India at
Sharjah and just when you called Salim Malik
was betting with me that Pakistan would
win. What do you think?

8. You are smoking a cigarette and a cute woman asks

Stupid Question:-Oh, so you smoke
Answer:-No, it's a miracle...........

it was a chalk and now it's in flames!!!

9. In the temple,

School friend: Saami kumbuda vanthiya

Me: Illa parotta vum pooriyum sapdalamnu vanthen

Some of the Youtube Personalities that I never knew

I came across these three people just a week ago, who have maintained a very interesting profile of their own vidoes and some of the popular videos.

I was just amazed to look into a collection like this. Click on the links below to view their wonderful works....

Murugan Bhaktan
Mr. Alien
Vibrant Energy

They have actually made my work easier by just clicking on these links rather than searching for all these videos and storing it in my memories.